Nine Tips to Help You Avoid Unnecessary Battles.
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Don’t fight over something that’s none of your business, or that you can’t do anything about.
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Think about the consequences of the argument. Are they worth it?
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Determine what the conflict is really about. Once you do this, then decide if it’s worth bringing up. If it is, address the underlying issue, not the superficial one.
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Make sure the argument is going to solve something.
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Don’t fight just because you “feel you’ve been challenged.”
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Ask yourself, “Is it really a big deal?” Chances are that it’s not.
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Realize that you don’t always have to have the last word, and often it takes the “bigger person” to simply let the conflict go.
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Ask yourself, “Am I really right? Does it matter if I’m right? Is there really a ‘right or wrong’ for this issue?”
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Is this an issue you’ll remember in five years? In one year or six months, even? If not, don’t fight it.
